Asking For Help Does Not Make You Weak

There is a saying "There are two kinds of people: those in therapy, and those who should be." Getting counselling or going into therapy used to be looked upon as something you did because there was something 'wrong' with you.  The belief was that people should be able to handle life on their own. Going for counselling made you look weak.

Not anymore.

Thanks to the new movement of the last few years to encourage discussions around mental health and stigma. That, backed with research that shows the benefits of talk therapy, more people are asking for help. I would even say that asking for help is the new strong. You don't have to have experienced major trauma or grief to receive counselling (though if you have, I highly recommend it). There is no checklist to prove that you have suffered enough to qualify. Life can be beautiful, but also challenging, messy, or chaotic. Even when we have a lot of wonderful things going on, we can still be stressed. We live in a busy world where everyone wants an answer NOW. Counselling can help you to look at your life and see if there is anything you want to change or improve. It can also be a safe place where you can unburden yourself.

Here are a few other reasons to consider counselling:

  • You have someone's undivided attention; someone who will not judge or be biased;
  • You can learn the right strategies to cope with stress and anxiety;
  • You can work on your goals;
  • It offers you a chance to examine your thinking, feelings and behaviour;
  • A professional can offer you more objective advice;
  • It will help you to make decisions or solve problems;
  • You can learn to communicate better and thus improve relationships;
  • You can take the time you need to tell your story and share your pain;
  • It is a form of self-care, a gift you give yourself in order to get to know yourself better.
  • Counselling is confidential and licensed psychologists and registered clinical social workers must adhere to a strict code of ethics.  You don't need to worry about information getting back to your friends or your boss.

Those are only a few reasons, there are many more. Just remember, asking for help is not weakness but strength.